Last Updated on by Buayifa Ojeogwu
Let’s talk about self-care tips that are not spa time and red lipstick.
Don’t get me wrong, I have absolutely nothing against spa time, and a little or even heavy makeup.
FYI My favorite lippie color is red.
But I think self-care should and can be more than that.
What I mean is that you need to dig in, find and make yourself a better person.
Before I proceed, let me clarify that it is total B.S to think that self-care is selfish.
Because if you are not okay, how can you take care of the ones that love and depend on you?
That would be so messed up!
With that being said, let’s go learn some tips for self-care that are sustainable, and can become a lifestyle.
Self-care Tips That Are Not Massages And Red Lipstick
Self-affirmation is an important self-care tip because this is you knowing and appreciating yourself.
This helps you come face to face with your insecurities and turning it around to positivity.
By so doing, these insecurities become powerless.
It doesn’t mean they will disappear, they just won’t be as important as you thought they were.
For example, I stopped loving my body after having babies.
Then I started working out and eating healthy, and getting results.
But it was only when I started loving my body, and saying “my body is beautiful” that I started seeing and appreciating my progress.
Not just my body, I tell myself that I am beautiful because I know I am.
Have you seen me? Haha.
So in essence, know and love yourself flaws and all. That’s #selflove.
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2. Do Not Compare Yourself With Someone Else
Secondly, do not compare yourself to strangers or even your friends.
Remember the saying “comparison is the thief of joy”.
When you start comparing yourself to everyone else, you may end up feeling miserable.
I know sometimes we do it unconsciously because we are only humans.
But you can control it to an extent.
You know the plan is to self-care not self-destruct.
3. Practice Yoga
Yoga is my favorite tip for self-care.
It helps you connect and see yourself in a different light.
When I first started yoga, I always looked forward to the end because I was not as strong.
I just wanted to get it over with and move on to other things.
But now I am a lot stronger and I enjoy every yoga session.
Between, Yoga with Adriene is one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Adriene’s voice is encouraging, and the practice is not intimidating.
She’s teaching you and letting you know that it is okay to shake or fall from a pose.
Telling you to whisper to yourself “I am strong”.
Isn’t that sweet?
So adding some yoga to your daily routine may just be that special self-care you can get every other day.
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4. Stop Caring What Anyone Thinks Of You
I know how difficult it is to not worry about what someone else thinks of you.
People will always have their reservations and opinion of others.
But that shouldn’t stop you from living and enjoying your life.
Just like I said at the beginning of this post, “some people think it is selfish to self-care”.
That’s their opinion, and it doesn’t define you, what you believe and who you are.
I remember some people’s first judgment about me is that “she is so proud”.
Just because I am not afraid to be myself.
It used to bother me, but not anymore.
I cannot live my life trying to prove everybody wrong.
It is a total waste of time.
And the more you think about what someone thinks of you, you find yourself afraid to do any and everything.
Because you do not want to be criticized or judged by them.
But when you stop caring, you will find yourself doing things that actually make you happy.
Then these people and their words become irrelevant, powerless, and non-existent.
If I was thinking about what people say, I would have stopped blogging.
But I really enjoy it even if I am not the best writer.
Anyway, that’s self-care tip number four.
5. Celebrate The Little Things
Remember to celebrate your little wins and achievements because no one else will.
And most importantly, you are doing it for you.
So if you are learning a new language, and you pass a small test; celebrate it.
When you do this, you are appreciating yourself for taking that step and making progress.
And this will give you the push you need to do more.
6. Hang Out With Friends
Another self-care tip is to spend time with your friends.
You don’t have to spend money or anything like that.
But if that’s what you prefer, it is fine.
I am talking about just hanging out with adults, away from the noise of your kids.
Spending day after day at home with just kids can drive one crazy.
Recently, I started attending a weekday meeting with some ladies at church, and it has been great.
It feels good to talk to other adults order than my husband for a change.
That’s why I recommend hanging out with friends as my sixth self-care tip.
7. Spend Some Time Alone
Lastly, spend some time alone when you can.
Since self-care is about you, sometimes all you need is you and your thoughts.
If you have kids, your partner can take them somewhere or maybe drop them off with grandparents.
This will give you time to think, plan, laugh, listen to music, maybe do some yoga, and cry.
Yes, I added crying because crying is good.
It helps you release whatever the stress and pain you have bottled up just because you had to.
And you would actually feel a lot better after a good uninterrupted crying session. Lol.
So that’s self-care tip number seven.
Boom! 7 Tips For Self-care
So that’s seven self-care tips that are not massages and expensive makeup.
But if spa time is your ideal form of self-care, please enjoy and knock yourself out.
However, I am sharing tips for self-care that can help you actually care, know, and treat yourself better.
What are your favorite self-care tips?
Please share them in the comments.
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